Thx guys, oem sounds like a good choice then. tireman also said the sapphires come with the cd and even if they dont, ive got a cable connection n downloading will be no problem. Once i get the cash ill prolly buy that.
EDIT: btw this really helped me alot. i just saw this
gfx card comparison in one of the other forums here. i circled the card i was told by my friend was "amazing for gaming/one of the best" and the one u guys told me to get--keep in mind the brands dont match xactly but u can def see that the GPU u recommended is ALOT better. glad i came here since i kno nothing about this stuff...i was lookin at those 5700LEs on newegg thinking they were really good and worth the 100+...so when i do decide to get my card now im gonna be lookin at the 9600's in the 100$ range. might even bump up to a retail one, or the same card with 256mb ram cuz the price difference between them is minimal, and i want the things so i can adapd the DVI to a VGA as well as the thing for s-video and composite to hook it up to my TV...