What to do about a VERY annoying kid

[8raker]

I posted something similar in the pet peeves thread, but let me elaborate more.

I have this kid, named Cortland(like the apple ) on my bus. He is the same age as me (11). He ALWAYS has been annoying. Some examples:
"Your stupid!"
"Shutup Quinton(my name)!"
"That is gay!"
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I was listening to my CD-player yesterday and my ears started to hurt....I had broken my headphones earlier that day and now only one speaker worked. So I put the working one on my head so it was like this / slanting.
He looks over at me and starts shouting "OMG! LOOK AT QUINTON! HE LOOKS SOOOOOO STUPID!" I usually say something along the lines up shutup or ignore him. Today I LOST IT! He was THE MOST annoying person I have *ever* seen.
He got sent to the back because he was annoying the driver. I had some of my 8th and 9th grader friends back there......he started annoying them. He was yelling at them and annoying them. At the same time, I was thinking "get the **** away from my friends" He spit it my friend Courtney's mouth when yelling at her. She and her friend slapped him and started yelling at him. He was told shutup by EVERYBODY for a total of about 300 times. The bus driver even kept telling him to shutup. I must have said it 80 times.....After he got off I went back there to courtney and started yelling about how I cannot stand him.....

My question to you is: What would you do and what would you recommend for me to do about it?

I want to just hit him 30 times in the face, and if it persists, I might just do that but it would be 3 day OSS :*(

P.S. My best friend is friends with him, meaning I see him more than I should.
P.S.S Sorry for yelling so much mods...just venting
P.S.S.S School dance tommorow YAY!!(He better not be there)

[doctorgonzo]

Ignore, ignore, ignore. He just wants attention. Yelling at him, hitting him, or doing anything to acknowledge him is exactly what he wants. Once you start ignoring him, he'll go away.

[8raker]

Ive tried gonzo, I really have....I have tried to ignore him for days at a time...But he WILL NOT GIVE UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Any more recommendations?

[GForce64]

He's right. Kids do that to get attention. Just ignore him.

[mbossman2]

the more deep seated the insecurity, the longer you will have to ignore him to make him stop.

[mjkovis]

Sometimes it helps to talk to him. Ignoring doenst work all of the time. You are at the age where you have to deal with many instances of kids wanting attention and trying to make themselves look better than you. Trust me, it wont stop at 11 years old. It happens in years to come all of the time.

Try to talk to this kid. Tell him you do not like what he is doing and ask why he is doing it. If he is that immature and wants to continue, let him do it. You should keep in your mind that you are the better person not responding with hitting, other bad insults, or acknowledging that him saying those bad things makes you angry.

[doctorgonzo]

Days? You simply need to ignore him until he grows up. Patience is a virtue. Learning how to deal with people like this is a necessary skill to learn, because you will be dealing with things like this forever. It's not easy, but in the long run you will be much happier if you can ignore these kinds of people.

[roomwithamoose]

I think it's best to not necessarily ignore him, just his insults and attempts to be annoying. He's trying to get people's attention because he may never have had positive attention. As difficult as it may be, you need to treat him like a friend. Not a close friend, but don't be hostile and try very hard not to take offense to his insults. Eventually, after probably years of treating him like a normal person, he'll learn that he doesn't to be mean and annoying to get people's attention. Maybe you can help him learn something, and become a better person? Just be more persistant than him, and try to never be condesending.

[ZeratulsAvenger]

Ya I would say just tough it out or try to not be around to much, but when you do have to just ignore him. Eventually he should give up. Blast music, talk to someone else, just ignore him. Oh ya, and people in my school have one ear covered and one not with headphones all the time so that they can talk too. Dont really see why that would be lookin "soooo stupid"

Or I guess ya could just smack him around a bit

EDIT:This being the opinion of someone who really is unable to deal with people who bug him, so I guess maybe trying the above and ignoring the insults could be good, but don't ignore him... Just depends on how difficult this kid really is I guess... I still think a lil smacking couldnt hurt to much

[Driv33R]

Well you know what happens to kids like this in brooklyn? well let me tell you. I had the same problem with this fat kid in my school. he was annoying the living **** out of everyone, mostly me. so one day i had it too. and i just came up to him during my ap chem class and punched him so hard in the face his glasses flew across the room. i know im setting a very bad example here, and i know it happened in hs not at your age eather, but still if nothing else works.?.?.?

[doctorgonzo]

Stooping to their level isn't a good idea. You aren't going to be able to get through life punching people in the face who annoy you. You will be able to get through life ignoring people who act stupid. You'll be a lot happier, in fact.

[Driv33R]

I know, I know. But im not sure about being happier when seeing that kid cry lol. Well thats just me. I got into a lot of trouble too, but i was damn happy and satisfied.

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[jsawicki]

i would go up behind him and start spanking him till he crys

[Yuanji]

i like to do this. clench my fist real hard till i forget about whats annoying me and just not make a physical appearence that its getting to me. I'm around the same age 2 (i'm 13) and there are annoying kids in my class 2. the main thing is to accept them for what they are cuz they are childish and you just have to realize that you have a higher maturity level and therefore must be a little more lenient with this type of behavior.

[jsawicki]

ok what you need to do is think of a few good comebacks that will get attention off him.
obviously this kid thats makin fun of you he has plenty of problems that you can find to make fun of him about. If you start makin fun of him and the crowd on the bus is goin wild laughing cuz u have good comebacks, he will realize that your better than he is and then he will stop. It works all the time for me. and guys ur whole talking it over with him isnt the best idea cause right after ur done talking, the kid will be like HAHAAHA LMAO @ YOU!!!

[Yuanji]

sorry to break it to ya but 11 year olds have no self respect so they don't rlly care if ppl laugh at him as long as he has attention. once you hit the 14-18 year mark, i think popularity and public image starts mattering a lot more

[jsawicki]

well if they dont seem to care, why is this 11 year old complaining about this kid in the first place?

[Yuanji]

cuz he's obviously more matured besides, its not his self image thats bugging him, its how other people are projecting themselves to him yes nagging does get annoying and usually its not cuz ur afraid other people will think differently of you

[jsawicki]

wow uh, im a moron so could you put that in words that a moron can understand?

[SARGE]

An old saying goes, "love your enemies; it will drive them nuts".

[HAL9000]

Ya... ranks up there with keep your friends close, but keep your enemies closer.

[raftero]

i'm from a much eairlier generation but if it were my kid i would advise talking to the bully , but some time you have to get their attention like Drive33R said in an previous post to get them to listen. i have found through experience that bullying(verbal or physical) only works on those who will take it. walk away if you can but sometimes that just won't work.

[SARGE]

Originally Posted by HAL9000 Ya... ranks up there with keep your friends close, but keep your enemies closer.

I thought the saying went just the opposite.

[Redfallon]

No I think Hal's correct, at least that's how I've always heard it. . .*shrugs*

[sdkfz]

It is possible that this child comes from a home where this behavior is the norm which leaves you with two choices, try to help them be a better social person or ignore them and let them head off down their own path to their destiny. But I can say that resorting to physical violence is NOT the way to go- that path leads to more trouble than it is ever worth.

[raftero]

8raker as you can see there are diverse opinions on how to handle the problem, i would suggest you tell your parents , they might talk to his parents, the school officials, bus driver etc. i don't think argueing the points here will help your situation and it will finally rest with you and your parents and the bully good luck.

[Punked Out Comp]

Here is exactly what you do:
1. walk up to him and call him a few foul names.
2. grab his shirt collar.
3. punch him as hard as you can in the mouth ten times (its important that you do it ten times so all his teeth are knocked out and he cant talk at all so he cant make fun of you).
4. grab both of his ears.
5. pull his head down and bring your knee up hard in fast so that you break his nose.
6. throw him to the floor.
7. stomp as hard as you can on his stomach just below his rib cage which is the most unprotected part of his heart.
8. stomp him where it herts even worse.
9. drag him to a patch of dirt or mud and rub his face very hard in it and make him eat it.
10. shove his head in the sewer drains at the curb.
11. run really fast before you get caught and sent to juvie.

bonus: make sure there are plenty of grls watching. this will make it 3 times as bad for him and get you lots of phone numbers.

[glc]

Advocating violence is not what we want to do around here. Thread closed, official warning to punked.

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