Parents and Trust

[ZeratulsAvenger]

Ok... so I(a 17 year olf male) went to a party of a turning 16 year old girl that I know, along with another 16 year old girl, two 16 year old guys, and a couple 15 year old people. So... It gets to be late and 2 guys leave because their parents wanted them home. So then we decide to go inside and warm up(waterfights+darkness+alaska=Freezing!) and it is just me, two 16 year old girls, 2 younger girls(sisters of the bday girl) and a 16 year old guy. We are just sitting out in the living room talking bout, well I dont even know... being cold and other things(all harmless) and then the bday girls mom comes out and almost yells at the bday girl to tell us(the guys) to go home and then asks what we were doing. She says sitting and talking. It was dark by the way since we didnt want to wake her mom or something, kinda confused me, but not as if we were planning some orgy So then her mom asks if the bday girl thought she was stupid, as if what we were actually doing was more then sitting around. Now, I dont see why she would believe that a bunch of us would be doing anything "bad" with 7th and 8th graders present for one thing, but also none of us are going out with one another... its a group of friends for heavens sake! Ugh... On a normal day is one thing, but I mean it was her birthday... and of course I hate when parents make an assumption of me being just a normal girl hungry guy... Sorry... had to vent... can't sleep when I am in this state... now to play some Medal of Honor Pacific Demo

[TwoRails]

Ya, it's a shame, but some people are just that way. Another parent might have offered you all some hot cholcolate... I know mine would have.

Some people just worry and make the proverbial moutain from the mole hill. But, you never know, maybe she had reason to think something was going on..??

[Mesaeus]

Nope, sounds like a classical case of borderline paranoia. I mean if she caught you guys playing strip poker, then maybe she had some point, but to me it looks like she imagines all kinds of freaky stuff whenever her daughter is out of her sight, and then assumes her imaginations to be the truth. Or maybe she's really prudish and the thought of a male of any age talking to her daughter has her fainting ? Whatever the reason, that was a clear overreaction. Don't worry about it, some parents are completely incapable of trusting their children, you were not at fault.

[Spartan]

I wouldn't take it to personally she's probably just looking out after her daughter. I would imagine having a daughter turn 16 would be a little scarey for a parent, that is about the age when boys, dating and sex become issues to be addressed.

-Spartan

[ZeratulsAvenger]

Well I can't help but feel offended since I am part of the reasoning for her blow up. It also took 30 minutes of debate for another friend of mine to convince her mother that I wasnt a complete idiot because she decided to sneak on the telephone and listen to a conv once, in which we were both joking around which got the girl grounded(dont get that one either... I have made worse jokes with my mother...) and also she heard me say something to the effect of "Parents have to gain my trust," which I admit may sound kinda stupid but given how many crappy parents I have met I have come to the conclusion that I don't plan on giving them "respect" until I see they deserve it...

Glad to see it's not just me on the 1st note, on the respect one I may be more alone, but I guess your always alone on something.

EDIT: Oh ya, and just so ya know I ain't just some kid trying to stir up trouble Normally I avoid it, sometimes I just end up creating it though