I have a problem

[Hi Ho]

I have known this girl for several years but we just recently started talking and hanging out (strictly friends). Her dad and mine are very good friends. The problem started when I stayed overnight at her house.I was there attempting to bring her computer back to life (it had 54 viruses on it). Her computer, in her room, is connected to dial up and we couldn't connect to the internet. She said I could use one of the computers downstairs to download AVG and put it on a CD. Well, appearently those computers are completely off limits (they are her dad's work PC's) and he found out that it was used. Now that wouldn't have been too bad except for the fact that it had several viruses on it ( I do not know how they got there). The next day after I got home my dad recieved an email from her dad explaining the problem with the PC. He also said that for my sake I should not get involved with his daughter even as friends. He said this not because he doesn't like me, but because he thinks she is a bad influence on me. Anyway, he appearently told her that he sent an email to my dad and when I was talking with her on MSN I made the BIG mistake of telling her what the email said. Now it is appearently in turmoil over there and they aren't speaking to each other. I feel responsible and really bad. I really don't want my friendship or anyone elses to go down the drain. I'm afraid her dad might be really mad at me now and I really don't want that. I don't know what to do. My dad suggested that we both talk to her dad without her there and hopefully we can straighten it out but for now I am scared, bummed out, and feeling guilty. I don't know what to do.

[Spartan]

I would take your dad's advice. A man to man conversation in person is better than trading e-mail's in a situation like this. i don't know him from Adam, but I seriously doubt that "I think my daughter is a bad influence on you" is the real reason for that comment. Just go talk to him and stay calm and reasonable. If he says don't come around anymore then you have to respect that (at least as far as his home goes).

-Spartan

[Hi Ho]

Well he's not the kind of person to simply shun anyone because of one incident. He has always liked me and has never had a problem. It seems, however, that his daughter frequently "misbehaves". They don't seem like serious offences to me (using a PC for a couple minutes, taking one CD-R, etc.) but appearently he is very strict about it. Me and my dad will talk to him as soon as possible but he lives almost an hour away so it's not really simple getting over there. Neither her mom or my mom are really involved but her mom is obviously feeling the effects of this problem. I don't want to be on her bad side either.

[Yuanji]

Originally Posted by Hi Ho Well he's not the kind of person to simply shun anyone because of one incident. He has always liked me and has never had a problem. It seems, however, that his daughter frequently "misbehaves". They don't seem like serious offences to me (using a PC for a couple minutes, taking one CD-R, etc.) but appearently he is very strict about it. Me and my dad will talk to him as soon as possible but he lives almost an hour away so it's not really simple getting over there. Neither her mom or my mom are really involved but her mom is obviously feeling the effects of this problem. I don't want to be on her bad side either.

i don't know much about stuff like this but he's probably trying to hide some of the stuff she's done. More likely, it was something she did to set him off and you were just at the wrong place at the wrong time.

[Hi Ho]

Well it seems that things are mostly OK now. I have been talking to her online and apperantly things are OK with her dad now. It seems that my dad has blown it a bit out of proportion. He really made me worry. After talking with her I feel a lot better but when my dad gets home tonight I will have to face him again. Hopefully I can straighten everything out. In my opinion there never was a real problem nor was there any reason to make this into such a big deal.

[M. A. Dockter]

It seems to me you know the right thing to do, but for one reason or another just don't wanna do it.

Stop screwing around. No body in this world is going to do it for you.

[SARGE]

Originally Posted by M. A. Dockter It seems to me you know the right thing to do, but for one reason or another just don't wanna do it. Stop screwing around. No body in this world is going to do it for you.

Don't beat around the bush, Doc. Say what you really mean.

[ric449]

In all my time on these forums, I have never known doc to beat around the bush. Especially when it comes to banning members/closing topics .

[MrAustin]

Originally Posted by ric449 In all my time on these forums, I have never known doc to beat around the bush. Especially when it comes to banning members/closing topics .

Even so we should find a way to get Doc out of his shell.

Glad to hear everything seems to be working out, Hi Ho.