Gal Bud's Vacation

[SARGE]

Gal bud (Julie) going on a trip to Cozumel with 2 sisters, and one taking husband and 2 small girls. Was originally planned to be a gather of everyone, but since I ain't going and one of the other guys also, seems will be basically a reunion of 3 sisters, a good thing, and the onliest guy will surely be told to shut up and stay out of the way - believe me, he won't mind that knowing him. An all-inclusive trip with a bar, he will be very happy and reoccur into the picture when told - such is life. They will be gone for 8 days, start to finish. Julie is concerned how I will do, being alone all that time, and of course I will be. I have the same concerns but will not tell her because I want her to enjoy her time with her family. She has indeed been a rock I could lean upon for 2 years and despite my attempts at being macho and not needing anyone, deep down I know otherwise and appreciate all she has been for me. I have never met a more wonderful person who accepted me as I am and forgiven so much, and who has an obvious love for me that surpasses all understanding. With my all inquisitive mind, believe me I have tried to figure out why she does that. She is worried about leaving me alone, although I'm a very grown up man, who has obvious problems but gets counseling each week to deal with the past, and making progress I should say. How can I convey to her I will be ok, yet in the back of mind I know I will have a tough go. I've been thru much tougher situations, surely, but she has given me such a peace and security each day. Is this screwed up thinking?

[RevCLB]

Screwed up in that you are too concerned about it. Not scewed up in that you realize you need help. You probably have phone numbers of guys in your groups. Use those.
Even a former Marine is not the toughest guy in the world. You have help, just reach out for it.

[Kuch]

No, this isn’t screwed up thinking. Self awareness is a good thing, so is understanding your limitations.

Tell her to enjoy her vacation and to have a good time. She deserves it. Then, set a schedule for yourself with a list of things you want to do/try/get done while she is away. Keep yourself goal oriented and the time will fly by. Sitting around and watching the tube will make the time drag by, so do some things that maybe you haven’t had time to do until now.

[David M]

I agree with Kuch with the addition of calling up some friends and getting together with them or emailing or writing some people you have not seen in quite a while.

[juppy]

I don't think there IS a way to make her not worry about you, Sarge. That's all part of caring for another person in a relationship....you're going to worry about them when you're not there yourself to offer support and help. In other words, asking her to stop worrying about you would be like asking her to stop loving you altogether....ain't gonna happen. She cares, so she worries. All you can do is try to reassure her that you'll be fine by yourself and for her to go and have a good time with her sisters, and hope she takes the advice.

[EzyStvy]

Just tell her you'll be so busy counting the days till she gets back that the time will fly.

Or tell her that Debbie and Mary and Susan and Jane will be keeping you more then busy (j/k)

[Force Flow]

Like the others mentioned, just keep yourself busy. Friends, hobbies, or a little vacation of your own to nearby museums, art galleries, parks, or whatever suits your interests.

[catacon]

Yeah, my girlfriend went to a music camp last year for a month (she is going again this year, too ). I found the time went pretty fast because I kept busy with projects and hung out with some friends and worked. Just keep busy and the time will fly. Plus, when she gets back, you will like her even more. What's that adage?...Absence makes the heart grow fonder.